Our resident guy advice guru, T9, breaks down the Top 10 Reasons Why Dudes Fail With Honiez —And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes. Every few days, we will share one of the Top 10 reasons, here’s #6…
MISTAKE #6: Not understanding how attraction works for the honiez
Chiqs are extremely different from men when it comes to attraction. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a dude sees a beautiful, sexy chiq, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for chiqs? Do ladies feel sexual attraction to guys based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive dudes with gorgeoues gals than the other way around? Chiqs are more attracted to certain qualities in guys… and they’re attracted to the way a guy makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make chiqs feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy gal.
But it’s not an accident. You have to learn how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how…
This is very true. I’ve talked a bit about how guys have these mental barriers they project into the real world. Things like “She won’t like me because I’m too bald, fat, ugly, etc.” That’s because in our reality as guys, we do not find chiqs who are ugly to be attractive. But when it comes to gals, who are more emotional creatures and rely more on their feelings than logical thought when it comes to attraction, the biggest thing that gets them going is how a guy can COMMUNICATE with them.
Communicate in ways such as what we say, body language, and our actions as guys. Taking strong frames of “I am the prize. I am a great guy and chiqs will be lucky to be with me” and imposing that on others will get you the same effect as a gorgeous body and Brad Pitt-like face, if pulled off right.
Guys who are good looking have a distinct, inherent advantage over the rest of us. But if they are boring guys who fail to keep the gal engaged, she is going to move on and look for someone else. You may not be able to change your looks, but you CAN change the way you communicate with women. In that respect, there is hope for all of us, and in my opinion, this is the area where Double Your Dating shines the most.