Our resident guy advice guru, T9, breaks down the Top Ten Reasons Why Dudes Fail With Honiez —And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes. Every few days, we will share one of the Top 10 reasons, here’s the first one…
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have you ever noticed that the really hot honiez never seem to be attracted “nice” dudes?
Of course you have!
Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had super sexy female friends that always seemed to date “bad boiz”… but for some reason they were never interested in YOU. LOL!
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple…
Chicas don’t base their choices of dudes on how “nice” a guy is. They choose their men because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn’t make a honie FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn’t make a chic CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with honiez that you thaast for. And that’s me being real nikka!
Here’s some food for thought: Without tension, there can be no attraction. You guys ever hear that old saying “Sexual Tension?” Well, there’s a reason it’s “Sexual.” Nice guys try to eliminate ALL conflict, ALL tension from their interactions with honiez because they mistakenly believe that by doing so, the chick will like them.
Well, it’s quite the opposite.
If you look at the “a** holes” or the “bad boiz” or the guys that are good with chics, you’ll see that for the most part they are good at creating that tension that’s just under the surface of the interaction. Be it by a devilish smile, or a suggestive comment that get’s the wheels in the girl’s brain churning, there’s something there that is NOT complacent or safe.
When you can create that tension, you will be taken out of the “nice guy” category.
Inspiration & References: Mystery Method, Pick Up Artist (PUA), Seduction Base