Have you ever said something to a guy you’re totally crushing on and immediately regretted it when you saw his reaction? Or maybe you didn’t even realize you said something wrong, but are freaking out and worried that you did since he hasn’t texted you in two weeks? Here are ways to make sure you don’t make those mistakes again. Find out what you should avoid saying to a guy you’re crushing on so you don’t lose him.
1. “Oh yeah, I saw that on Facebook…”
Let’s be honest, we’re all guilty of Facebook stalking—but revealing that you’ve clicked through enough of your crush’s pictures might scare him away.
So keep your Facebook activity on the down low. If he brings up something you’ve seen a picture of on social media, don’t mention that you already know about it; instead, ask him to tell you more. That will keep the conversation flowing… without freaking him out with the thought of you creeping on his profile.
2. “Your ex-girlfriend…”
It is a very bad idea to bring up exes when talking to a guy you like, if you bring up his ex it makes you look jealous and nosy.
Bashing his ex-girlfriend makes you come off as catty and insecure. You may think you’re doing him a favor by justifying their break-up, but whether he is on bad terms or good terms with her, putting her down will make you seem nasty—and not in the way he wants you to be.
Also, your crush probably doesn’t want to be reminded of his ex. And even if he does (in which case, he’s not over her—red flag!), why take the attention away from yourself and put the spotlight on someone he used to be with?
3. “My ex-boyfriend…”
When you’re talking to a new love interest, let’s just keep all exes—yours and his—out of the picture. “Don’t ever bring up your past relationships unless he specifically asks, If his or your ex does come up, move past this subject quickly, because it will probably have a negative effect on your conversation.
Bringing up your ex-boyfriend can signal that you’re still attached, which will discourage your crush from pursuing you because he may think you’re not ready to move on or that you’ll always compare him to your ex.
And while we’re on the subject of not bringing up your past boyfriends, you may want to avoid your past hook-ups, too. Guys don’t want to know about guys you were with, . Thinking about your hook-up history will bother him and make him want to talk less.
While there’s no need to pretend you’re a virgin if you aren’t, your crush likely doesn’t want to hear about how many times you’ve been around the block either.
4. “I really want to be in a relationship. I’m so sick of being single!”
You should never tell your crush that you don’t want to be single anymore. Why? This sends the message that you want to be with someone, but not necessarily him. In other words, he may not get the hint that you’re interested in him specifically, and he’ll think that you’re just fishing for a relationship instead.
Additionally, he may not be in a place where he wants to get serious with anyone, so you could turn him off if you immediately bring it to the relationship-or-nothing level.
Instead of bringing up your interest in being in a relationship, try to focus on conveying your interest in him. Rather than take a passive approach, tell your crush that you like a lot of the qualities he has.
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5. “Did you get my last text?”
The double (or triple… or quadruple…) text is a definite don’t. If he doesn’t respond, don’t keep texting him back. Constant texting can come off as needy or just bothersome.
Waiting for a text back can be painful—we’ve all been there. Have your friends help hold you back from overdoing it, though, so you don’t want to scare him away. If your Message thread with him is a constant stream of blue on the right side with no responses from him in between, that’s when you know you might need to take it down a notch.
6. Nothing
There are plenty of things that aren’t ideal to say to your crush, but saying nothing is even worse! This is especially true if you’re telling other people about your interest in him.
Don’t let him find out that he is your crush from someone else, If you end up telling him how you feel, that’s one thing, but if he finds out from someone else it may just make things more awkward and push him farther away.
Make sure that he hears your feelings from you. You might not want to throw your feelings out there right away, of course, but hinting at your interest can make him realize that there is potential between you two. Talking to him, no matter what it’s about, is the only way that you will get any closer to him, so don’t let the fear of saying something wrong keep you from saying anything at all!
All guys are different—they aren’t all going to react to the above statements in the same way. But when it comes to dealing with a new love interest, it’s better to play it safe while you are still getting to know each other so that he doesn’t have any reason to doubt that you’re not the cool, awesome collegiate that you are. Save the crazy for later.
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