Some things are as inevitable as boys breaking your heart. It’s almost always certain that at one point, you and your bestie might end up feeling the same way about a guy. So what do you do when this happens? Let’s figure this out together…

ARCHIE VERONICA BETTYTalk about it: Don’t hide your feelings. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up, even if your friend started liking him first. If you keep all those feelings inside, you’ll start to resent your friend if she does in fact end up with him. Sit her down and just let her know that you’ve developed feelings for him! What good is it to have a bestie to whom you can’t speak with freely?

Weigh your options: What are the consequences of dating him? Is this guy really worth it? No friendship is worth ruining over a guy. Remember, the loneliest woman in the world is one without a woman friend. Guys come and go, but true friendship springs eternal.

Run a background check: Relationships are emotional investments. Value yourself enough to know the quality of the person you’re looking to date. Does he jump from girl to girl? Use whatever information you find to warn your girlfriend (you don’t want her to get hurt, do you?)

Sisters before misters: Remember that when you and your friend like the same #guy, she will be there for you a lot longer than he possibly will. Guys will come and go over the years, but friends are usually in our lives forever. Who’s been around longer? Who knows you better?

same guy2What do you stand to gain/lose?: Think about your friend first and the times you spent together…the late night movies on each other’s couches, the mindless banter, the coordinated outfits and such; and now how your possible relationship with this guy might affect her and everything you’ve had.

same guy3Stay away from Competition: Don’t compete with your friend for this guy. The win will be empty because your friendship is guaranteed to suffer. And what if it so happens that he like none of you? How awkward and pointless will this all feel?

Walk away from the situation. It might hurt like hell, but remember, guys are a dime a data bundle. What’s yours will find you. Trust in that.