Our resident guy advice guru, T9, breaks down the Top 10 Reasons Why Dudes Fail With Honiez —And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes. Every few days, we will share one of the Top 10 reasons, here’s #3…
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her for Approval or Permission
In our desire to please the ladies (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get the chiq’s ‘approval’ or ‘permission’.Another HORRIBLE idea!!
Honiez are NEVER attracted to the types of guys who kiss up to them… EVER! Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat chiqs BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a gal well means ‘always getting her approval and permission for things’, think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Chiqs actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval all the time.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive gal if lame guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…
Let’s face it. People are lazy. They don’t want to make decisions for themselves. They don’t want to be in charge. They want leaders, a cause, a belief to invest themselves in. When it comes to chiqs, they want a strong guy to be with. Not necessarily physically strong, but a guy with a strong frame, strong beliefs, and strong ideas. A dude who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to tell others what to do.
This is important, because most guys have been trained to put chiqs on pedestals, to worship them like some type of special flower. But chiqs are people too. When you exalt them, you put them in a position they don’t want to be in. You put them in control. The gal suddenly becomes the one who has to make the decisions, who has to carry on the relationship, and frankly, she has too many other options available to her to do that.
Part of attracting gals comes down to getting the chiq you want to qualify to you, to accept the challenges you present to her. In essence, to get her to adopt your frame, and do what YOU want to do.