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We all need a little boost in life every now and then. Having a high opinion of yourself, who you are, what you do and basically a love for yourself are a few of things that people often forget to work on. You are amazing! It’s time that you realized that. Here are 12 positive ways to boost your self-esteem.

1. Be Your Own Best Friend

The easiest thing in the world is to take yourself for granted; don’t let that happen to you. Treat yourself the way you would treat your bestie or your sister. You would never put her down the way you sometimes put yourself down. You’re great! Now treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

“Comparison is the thief of joy” – never have truer words been spoken. Scrolling through Instagram and being jealous of other peoples’ lives is a terrible way to be. We all do it, but we need to realise that social media isn’t a realistic portrayal of a person’s life. You are unique and no one is like you, so why would you compare yourself to them?

3. Take Good Care Of Yourself

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You may take very good care of others and put yourself  last. Or your life maybe so busy that you don’t take the time to do the things you need to do to stay healthy and happy. Some simple and effective ways to take good care of yourself are; eating healthy foods that give you lots of energy, getting outside and exercising, spending some time each day doing something you really enjoy, and spending time each day with people who make you feel good about yourself. Try it and you’ll see a massive change.

4. Get Something Done

Low self-esteem is often accompanied by stress. It may feel very hard to do anything because you’re feeling overwhelmed, but trust me you’ll feel better if you can tick something off your to-do list. It will boost your sense of achievement if you do something, even if it’s a very small thing.

5. Wear Something That Makes You Feel Good

Obviously self-esteem has nothing to do with style, but wearing something that you feel comfortable in will give you the confidence to stand a little taller. If there’s a pair of jeans that you feel especially good in – wear them proudly! Feeling happy about how you look is an important part of your self-esteem.

6. Do Something Fun With Your Bestie


Your bestie loves you for you. Hanging out with them and doing something fun will boost both of your self-esteems, and it will obviously be super fun!

7. Do The Right Thing

When you do what you think is the right thing then you raise and strengthen your self-esteem. It might be a small thing like getting up from the couch and going to the gym. It could be to be more understanding of people, instead of being judgmental in a situation. Sometimes it’s hard to even know what the right thing is. But keep a focus on it and it can make a big difference about how you rate yourself.

8. Get Involved

Join clubs, societies or take up an activity you’re interested in. A dance class or an art class can be great fun; joining a club or class will lead to new friends and it’s a great way to boost your self-esteem. You get to meet new people, gain new skills, and interact with people in a way that you haven’t before.

9. Change It Up

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If you’re getting bored with your routine, it may be time to make some small changes. You could try out a new product, change your hair-style, or pick up a new hobby. Change makes you smarter; if things never changed you’d never learn anything new. And every time you learn a new skill (even if it’s just how to adapt), you are that much smarter than you were yesterday.

10. Hang Out With Positive People

Positive people have a good outlook in life. They see the goodness in people and life, and most importantly, they have drive. Positive people don’t give up or let the world put them down. With that, you would feel inspired to do the same.

11. Set Realistic Goals For Yourself

Nothing can kill our self-esteem more than setting unrealistic goals. Check your goals and if they keep disappointing you, you need to set more realistic ones. Your self-esteem will thank you. This may also help you to stop the cycle of negative thinking about yourself that reinforces a negative self-esteem. When we set realistic expectations in our lives, it means we can stop criticizing ourselves for not meeting idealistic goals.

12. Make A List Of Your Accomplishments

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You may not give yourself credit for all that you have achieved in your life. Making a list of your accomplishments will help you become more aware of your accolades. It will also help change the focus of your self-thoughts so that they become positive ones. You can do this exercise again whenever you notice that your self-esteem is low.