Mejja has great advise when he raps; “Girlfriend … Chukua simu, call your friends, do your nails, dunga poa, leo ni weekend, jiachilie, kwenye floor leo ni kujibamba, punguza stress, msupa shout ukiapa Oh!” Now, we understand that a mature relationship requires a healthy dose of sacrifice and compromise, but too much of that and you could lose sight of who you really are. After all, your partner fell for you—not a version of you who made a billion little tweaks and now only slightly resembles you. No matter how much you love someone, there’s nothing wrong with putting your foot down every once in a while—even if we’re just talking about picking something to watch.
Get a tattoo of your current partner
Since when does proving your love require needles and permanent ink? We get that your love is supposed to be just as long lasting as the tattoo, but come on, let’s just have some good faith and keep the branding to a minimum. What if you’all brake up and your next partner don’t got the same name??
Forget the bill
We are all for powerful ladies who can support themselves, but that doesn’t mean you have to support your date every single time you go out. Plus, let’s be honest, it’s nice to be wined and dined every once in a while. If too costly go Dutch!! There are always ways to handle finance without one partner feeling too strained and frustrated. These frustrations will later be lashed out on you.
Ditch Your Friends
As the Spice Girls once said, “If you wannabe my lover, you got to get with my friends.” In the first few months you may want to spend every waking moment together, but after that, it’s important to make sure you’re both still logging time with your friends. And if he’s not a fan of your crazy partying pal from college, well, maybe he can take a rain check the next time you’re seeing him. Hey, it’s not like you like every one of his old frat brothers either. Thing to note here is to respect each other’s pals and ‘tolerate’ them if you don like em.
Adopt Their Crazy Hobby
They like to fish? Great! Paintball? Uh, sure, let’s try it! Cliff diving? OK, no, stop. If they have a hobby that you have less than zero interest in, there is no harm in saying “See ya when you get back!” Shows you have enough self-confidence and you stay true to yourself. Independent and respectful is always super sexy!!
Change Your Diet
That’s fantastic that you’re vegan, but…I love nyama choma. Seriously, if you change your diet, it should be because you want to. No one should come between you and your food.
Trash Your Wardrobe
No partner should pressure you to dress in a way that just isn’t you—especially if you love your clothes. A few tweaks here and there are one thing, but a complete wardrobe overhaul is out of the question. Unless the cast of “What Not to Wear” shows up at your place of work, then they’re probably on to something.
By Muthoni Wachira